I Love Me, I Love Me Not

As products of the Internet age, more and more people are turning to online dating services as their primary tool for finding a mate. Leaving nothing to chance, they pour over their online profiles, combing through every phrase and taking each step of the membership process with the utmost care. The moment they push “Enter” these hopeful romantics blindly trust that their future is in good hands at the cost of posting their most intimate information for the entire world to see. The matchmaking game, rooted in science, forces the individual to step back and think about what truly makes a life partner, causing him or her to dig deeper than an initial attraction phase. It’s an opportunity to look inward, to determine what you plan to put into a relationship and what you hope to receive in return. The journey ensues – a slew of dates, the first kiss, pet peeves, and breakups.

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No one expects to find their soulmate after two dinner-and-a-movies, but each member, knowing all too well the incredible risk and personal investment involved, continues the process, nonetheless, in a desperate quest to find love. With such effort and so much at stake, I often wonder what happened to investing in professional love – to go beyond simply “making ends meet” or “putting food on the table” and working towards true happiness in the workforce. Most people believe in their hearts that there is something better out there, yet lack the confidence or the motivation to go after it. Like the matchmaking world, there are many steps involved in the process of seeking a sustainable career. These days, poisoned by jaded career mindsets and a negative employment atmosphere, people just aren’t willing to put in the same effort when searching for a job they love.

While we have evolved to understand the advantages technology offers to our personal lives, we have failed to realize how it has changed the job climate. For instance, people still believe that writing a resume is Step 1 in the job search process. Yet to employers who are still out there searching for the perfect employee, submitting a generic resume is like sending a half-hearted nod instead of making a true effort to say hello and connect with them, as you would on a first date. Many idealists utter the empty words, “Find your passion,” but in my opinion, that’s confusing and vague advice. For starters, most people have no idea where to look, so they often settle for mediocrity. And you can forget about listing your strengths and weaknesses in the business world. Talking about yourself is simply nerve-racking and uncomfortable.

Here’s the good news: there is a matchmaking service for careers – a scientific tool that gives you a 93% chance at long-term professional fulfillment. I like those odds. Yet, few people take advantage of job assessments to better their future, which begs the question: How important is your career to your ultimate happiness? This assessment isn’t the five-page report administered to you in high school that boldly claimed you would most likely be either a veterinarian or a bus driver. And it’s not the test your employer made you take at your last job. And it certainly doesn’t judge intellect like an IQ exam. In fact, it’s just the opposite. It measures your unique behaviors, motivators and communications styles against decades of comprehensive research in job matching. This career assessment is for people who are both serious about owning their professional futures and have the courage to look inward and think long-term, just as they do on matchmaking sites everyday.

If you’re looking for long-term happiness in all aspects of your life, put in the time and resources to make it happen. Remember the only difference between people who have it and people who don’t is strong-willed persistence.

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